About the Blog Own Your -Ish

As I thought about my struggle with perfection and the many dark moments I experienced due to mistakes in my career, life, friendship, and relationships, I realized that I made more progress backward than forward as the guilt of self-pity and regrets kept me down. Then I decided to say, “No more.” I chose to free myself from the burden of coming prepared not to fail. Instead, I decided to show up and be ME. Making this decision allowed me to live one day at a time, at the very point in time allowing me to own my space and control my thoughts. This decision made me less anxious and had me experiencing a more positive outcome.

In choosing to talk about my journey with unhealthy perfection, I settled on the name “ownyour-ish” for my blogging and store website. I needed to let the name be that as I have come to terms with the fact that it is okay to make mistakes. It shows I am trying something. My freedom and innate peace from this experience helped me make my decision. They made me want to write about my experience of pursuing unhealthy perfection and how it can only lead to more mistakes and regrets. It is a pursuit of an unending mirage and chasing after a smoke shadow.

I chose these words, “own your-ish,” as a reminder: Mistakes are part of life, and accepting them is the beginning of releasing the burden that comes with them. So owning your “-ish,” which means owning your imperfection, is the key to deconstructing unhealthy perfection that usually comes with a heavy burden of guilt and anxiety to get it right ALWAYS.